Wedding invitation faux pas
I thought it might be fun to make a list of a few things not to do with your wedding invitations. Of course, it’s your wedding day and you should do whatever you think is best, but just in case you’re curious, the official guidelines for wedding invitations are:
1) Never include registry information
This implies that you’re expecting, or even thinking about, gifts instead of spending time with the family and friends you’re inviting. Don’t even say “no gifts” or something along those lines. If you do have a registry, just list it on your wedding website or let people know where it is as they ask. People can also always ask your parents or your bridesmaids where you’re registered if they’re interested.
2) Double check that everything’s spelled correctly
Always have a second set of eyes check your wedding invitation proof before signing off on the proof for printing. The most common places for spelling errors are in names of people or places.
3) Don’t write “no children” or “adults only”
To let guests know that children aren’t invited, just don’t address the invitation to children. Read more here.
4) Don’t tell your guests what food and beverage services they should expect
Your guests should assume that they will be fed if the wedding is during a mealtime. You also should not state that a wedding will be “alcohol free” or “wine and beer only.” This implies that the food or drink may be a factor in your guests’ decision to come or not, when it really shouldn’t be. One exception: it is ok to request a dinner preference on an RSVP card for headcount purposes.
5) Do not send invitations to B-list guest later than three weeks before the wedding
This makes it too obvious that they were only invited as a last resort, and it doesn’t give people enough time to adequately prepare to attend.
6) Do not use mailing labels on wedding invitation envelopes
Even if you have a very large guest list, this tactic is too impersonal and makes your invitations resemble junk mail. If you can’t hire a calligrapher or hand write the addresses yourself, at least feed the envelopes themselves through a printer with the addresses written in a script font. Minted will also print your addresses on envelopes.
7) Do not address an invitation “and guest” when you know the guest’s name
Do everything possible to find out who someone is bringing as a date and use his or her name whenever possible. Inviting someone only as a guest of another person can feel cold and impersonal. Read more here.
Cegielski, Jennifer. Wedding Invitations. New York: Stewart, Tabori & Chang, 2004. Print.
Post, Peggy and Emily Post. Emily Post’s Etiquette. 17th ed. New York: HarperCollins, 2004 Print