Should you invite people to your wedding that you know won’t be able to come?
Yes. Think of sending someone a wedding invitation as a way to formally say “I would like you to be at my wedding” – even if you know that it’s not possible. And, you never know, sometimes people go to great lengths to get to a wedding when you never expected them to be able to make it. That’s one of the great things about weddings – it brings people together, and reinforces how much people mean to each other. Give your unlikely-to-come guests the opportunity to make a grand statement by sending them an invitation.
At the very worst, you’re sending them an invitation as a momento, and as a gracious way to include them and show them how much they mean to you.
If you have a fair number of invitations that you’re sending without any expectation that the invitee will be able to attend, you might want to mark this on your guest list and not count them in the overall headcount. Only do that if you’re very sure they won’t show up – since you can’t un-invite people, you don’t want to be pushed over your budget by having more people attend than you can afford.
However, you also don’t want to end up in the other camp, where you reserved spaces for people who probably were never going to attend, at the expense of inviting others who could come but were further down on your list. Using an A- and B-list is a good way to manage this process as well.